Hi this is a really belated reaction to your comment but I wanted to add--I know exactly what you mean about the thing with James. I went to look it up on Youtube after I found out you could have a fling with him only in the Citadel DLC and I went all o_O and felt kinda gross watching Femshep kinda bully him into accepting her attention. How does Bioware manage lovely stuff like the Jack romance scene in DLC, or Samara, and then do that to James? D:
In the wake of it though I have to say it solidified my impression of James as a kind of secretly sensitive guy/gentle giant (when not in combat). Poor guy.